Hi great and lovely people, I’m so excited to come your way again. I want us all to ponder over today’s topic, “Discipline or Punishment”.
“If you refuse to discipline your children, it proves you don’t love them; if you love your children, you will be prompt to discipline them – Proverbs 13:24.
Raising children is one of the most difficult. Nonetheless, it is necessary for every parent to discipline his or her child. The greatest responsibility God gave to parents is to nurture and guide their children into responsible adulthood. Truly lack of discipline will make your child unpolished. However, parental discipline will help your child grow and learn what’s right and wrong.
Frustration and extreme anger should not be part of discipline. How on earth can a parent beat up a child like this? (check image above)
This is unacceptable! This is corporal punishment. “Corporal punishment is intended to cause physical pain on a person”
A boy of his age, what at all did he do to deserve this? Disciplining your child is an act of love, not hitting hard to inflict pain on him. Let me also ask this question; should a child always be beaten for the wrong he or she does?
I know quite a number of our children are hard headed, very stubborn and won’t obey rules. However, violent form of discipline should be avoided by parents and other institutions. Most children will throw tantrums to make you angry but let’s exercise restraint. It is obvious most parents use their parenting style to discipline their children.
Let’s look at the four parenting styles. Where do you belong?
Authoritarian style of parenting- Where strict discipline is meted out. One cannot explain his or herself and children tend to perform poorly academically. They are unhappy and possess lower self esteem.
Authoritative style of parenting- This type of parenting is modest and children raised with this style of parenting become self disciplined and are able to do well for themselves.
Permissive style of parenting- Parents who exhibit this style are warm in nurturing. Communication is free and children are allowed to have their own way or they are given more freedom to do what they like.
Uninvolved style of parenting- Parents with this style of parenting are inactive or neglectful. More often than not, uninvolved parents tend to have problems or had problems when they were kids. They’re not interested to their children’s needs and not involved in their lives which can have negative effect on the children.
Here are a few points to consider:
1) Parents should set clear rules.
2) Parents calm down and teach the children right from wrong with kind words.
3) Engage your child and let him or her understand what he or she did was wrong.
4) Discuss why that behavior is not accepted and that wrong behavior has consequences.
Guide them in whatever decision they’re taking and help them to make good choices.
5) Let’s discipline in love.
6) Be your child’s friend.
7) Let’s choose discipline over punishment.
Wishing you all the best. God bless y’all.